Sudden Loss, New Beginnings and Three Simple Words

By Sean Ogle •  Updated: 09/15/15 •  4 min read

This past Saturday, I got married.

Everyone always says “It’ll be the best day of your life!” “It will be amazing!” but I remember telling one of my groomsmen on the drive to the venue, “So far, it just feels like a regular day.”

By the end of the night that had completely changed. It felt as though each part of the wedding was better than the last, and at the end of the night I couldn’t believe so many of our friends and family had traveled to a remote venue in Mt. Hood, Oregon to celebrate with us.

It truly was one of the very best days of my life.

The next day I was talking to my wife Tate (ok, that still sounds weird), about one of the most unexpected surprises from the wedding.

All weekend long I found myself constantly thanking people, and telling them how much I appreciated them.

Sure that’s commonplace at a wedding, but I truly meant it every time I said it – and I realized I don’t do it often enough.

Mt Hood Wedding

Wedding at Sunset

My golfing buddy Dan flew in from New York.

My mastermind group of Derek and Clay came up from San Francisco.

Our very own Location Rebel community manager Liz flew out from across the country.

The time and effort and money people spent to come and join us truly showed that people care about us, and the weight of that took a larger toll on me emotionally than I’d expected it would.

There’s something powerful about saying words as simple as “I appreciate you.”

I’d been planning on writing a whole post just about that. But the next morning I received a phone call from a friend who was also at the wedding.

“I almost didn’t make this phone call, because I didn’t want to rain on your parade. But I knew you would want to know. Scott Dinsmore passed away while climbing Mt. Kilamanjaro yesterday.”

The words hit me like a ton of bricks.

For those of you who didn’t know him, Scott was the founder of Live Your Legend.

He was one of those people who truly seemed larger than life. There aren’t enough superlatives in the world to describe his character, sense of adventure, willingness to help others, and to put it simply, passion for life.

However, over the past 24 hours as I’ve read hundreds of Facebook posts and tributes to Scott – I’ve noticed that every one of those people considered him a good friend – even those who only met him briefly or through the internet.

He made you feel like you’re important. His legacy lives on because of the impact he had on other people, and his ability to truly let you know he cared about you even if you only encountered him for a brief time.

Over the past few years I’ve experienced a lot of unexpected loss. Erin died in a plane crash. Katie in an avalanche. Beau in the Pacific Ocean. And now Scott on Kilimanjaro.

Looking back on this, all I can think is “man, I have cool friends!”

They were all freak accidents, but they were all doing something adventurous and inspiring – which should be a reminder for how we should all live our lives – because there’s no telling when it will be over.

Yet, the most important lesson I got from this weekend were three simple words: I appreciate you.

You don’t have to wait for a wedding or sudden loss to tell people close to you, or even the ones you’ve only met in passing, that you care.

Scott cared. As evidenced by the entire internet rallying around him, his wife Chelsea, and their family with heartfelt words.

This weekend I started a new chapter in my life, while simultaneously being reminded of how fragile it can be.

I lost a friend, and gained a lifelong partner.

Scott, I appreciate you. You’ve helped thousands of people live life on their own terms. You’ve taken work similar to mine, and done it on a scale very few will ever achieve. You will be missed, but never forgotten, and your legend will continue to live on.

Tate, I can’t wait to begin this next chapter with you. As I said on Saturday, I promise never to let our sense of wonder and adventure fade away. I appreciate you and the life we’ve continued to build.

It’s been an intense week, but one that I know will shape how I approach the rest of my life.

And to you, the reader, I guess there’s just one thing left to say.

I appreciate you.

Sean Ogle

Sean Ogle is the Founder of Location Rebel where he has spent the last 12+ years teaching people how to build online businesses that give them the freedom to do more of the things they like to do in life. When he's not in the coffee shops of Portland, or the beaches of Bali, he's probably sneaking into some other high-class establishment where he most certainly doesn't belong.
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12 comments on "Sudden Loss, New Beginnings and Three Simple Words"

  1. stephan placeres says:

    Congratulations bud. May y’all have a life of continued success, prosperity, and bliss. You say you appreciate us, but not as much as we appreciate you. Because of you, you have made a life worth living possible. And for that I say thank you.

  2. Congrats on your big day Sean – awesome man. Really happy for you guys and based on the pictures I’ve seen and what you’ve mentioned here about it, sounds like it was one heck of an experience/party/celebration – all of the above. Definitely a tough week as well with the news about Scott. I love your thoughts and message when reflecting back on the handful of friends you’ve lost over the past few years… “Looking back on this, all I can think is ‘man, I have cool friends!’ Your perspective on life has always been something I’ve appreciated and respected about you. I also think the promise you made to Tate this weekend is a promise we can all make to ourselves – to never let our sense of wonder and adventure fade away. Oh, and one last thing… I appreciate you too man – cheers!

  3. Kashiefah says:

    Hey Sean

    Congratulations on the next phase of your life. It’s an awesome trip and looking at your track record of taking trips, this will be the best one of your life.

  4. Jamie Smith says:

    Keep rockin’, Sean.

  5. Fred says:

    Great post Sean, and congratulations on your marriage!

  6. Momekh says:

    Congrats on getting married. And a great write up for Scott – really, everyone says how much of a cool guy he was.
    Sean, I wish you nothing but the best friend in your new adventure.

  7. Hayden says:

    Congrats to you and your new wife, Sean! You have an incredible story – someone I love reading about and learning from.

  8. Vicky says:

    Sean! Firstly – Congratulations on your wedding! Marriage is so beautiful! So happy for you both! I’m so sorry for your loss – Scott was a great man. Thank you for sharing your thoughts – it’s what I’ve been thinking since hearing the news too. Many blessings.

  9. Sean, inspiring post in many ways. I am a very active Live Your Legend community member and appreciate you and your tribute for Scott. I met you at WDS in your academy session this year. I loved your session and started following you immediately after. Your style and your authentic voice remind me a lot of Scott, and that’s a big compliment! 🙂 I appreciate you, and I wish you and your wife a lifetime of adventure, love, and optimism! All the best, Stephanie

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